Last week I was flipping through a catalog that offers some really unique and fun reads. One of the only books that they were featuring that I hadn't already read was called MWF Seeking BFF by Rachel Bertsche. I read the synopsis, giggled a bit, and decided its premise was a bit much. But, it has gotten me thinking. Aside from hanging out with their child's friends' moms or joining the neighborhood bunko group, how do women (especially ones who move every few years) find their BFF's? Ok, maybe not necessarily a new best friend, but at least someone they feel comfortable enough with to spend time together on a weekly basis.
I started daydreaming (because that's what this was really, a big old imagination session) about the things I'd love to do with my friends if we all magically lived in the same town again. Book clubs, movie nights, mix tape (that sounds so much better than mix CD or playlist) exchanges of our favorite songs. I started scheming this whole party idea where each of us brings a list of favorite books/movies/songs and we agree on a year long list of reads/watches/listens. Meeting back once a month to chat about it all and really get to know each other so much better. Think about it...there's a lot you can learn about somebody from their top ten lists.
Which got me thinking (again)...could I name Lee's (my closest friend in all the world's) favorite movies, books, and songs? Movies...almost all, books...maybe a few, songs...eek...perhaps if I just went with the band names I'd do ok. How about my sister? I could do a few of the books and maybe the movies, but I'm at a loss on song titles. And my BFF's? (For the record, I dislike that acronym, but it makes me laugh and gets my point across, so there you go.) Mmmm...probably not, but those are the things I want to know about them and consequently things I'd like to know about my future friends in the town we're moving to.
Care to list your top 10's...movies, books, songs, or all of the above? Please share. Do you have any brilliant friend finding ideas that don't involve preschool pick-up or bunko? I'd love to know.
And while I'm on the topic of list-making, this looks interesting. Trading lists with faraway friends could be a fun and creative way to keep in touch.
2 comments:
As much as I know you'll gag, church really is a great place to make friends. So is work. So are exercise classes, but that takes a while and you have to arrive early and linger around afterwards even if you feel dumb and alone. Actually, most classes are good for meeting folks - but again, you have to linger before and after and be willing to exhaust yourself for a little bit with pointless chatter. Pointless chatter is how we get things going. It just is. Truth is, I suck at initiating anything, too. I'm good in a group but don't really love one on one as it feels like too much pressure to keep things interesting. And there's always bunko. I have no idea what that is.
I love this. I have been feeling the same way. We decided to throw a "We're Not Going Away Party" while we were still nursing our wounds from the loss of our transfer home. The party failed miserably and only served as a reminder of how lonely I really am out here.
I can't imagine how challenging it is when you move so often.
It is challenging to link into a lot of community activities when you have a young child - so I am feeling the restraint that causes as well.
Favs as of this date (because I'm fickle and they are ever changing):
Sex and the City
Bucket List
Waiting for Superman
We Are Marshall
Ladder 49.
This doesn't mention my favorite relies/free thought or nutrition movies, but that business and these are for fun. Admittedly, I haven't had time to watch any of them since my children were born :)
I miss you friend, life has a little less spark with you not here.
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